Category: Individual Treatment

5 Reasons People Use When Saying NO to Counseling

It can be difficult for people to come to counseling initially, especially if they don’t know what to expect or understand how it works. Here are a few reasons people give when saying no to counseling. Hopefully it will clear up some common misconceptions.

1 -“Receiving counseling is a sign of weakness.”
That’s just not true. It takes courage to address problems and examine painful feelings. Asking for help is a sign of maturity, self-awareness and inner strength. Seeking counseling is taking the first step to working through the hard stuff.

2 – “I can’t afford to pay for counseling.”
Counseling rates at Hope and Healing are affordable. Invest in your health and well-being, you deserve it.

3 – “People who go to counseling are crazy. I’m not crazy!”
All kinds of people seek counseling; high functioning, smart and hardworking people, and even well adjusted but not “crazy” people. Some people feel sick, some feel unhappy, and others are at a place of transition in their lives and need help making decisions. But the common thread is people come to counseling when they have tried to work it out themselves, and they feel stuck and want to make changes.

4 – “I don’t believe just talking can do any good.”
Talking can actually help more than you could imagine. It helps relieve the pressure of keeping thoughts and emotions bottled up. Did you know that counseling involves much more than just talking? Counseling helps you gain self-awareness and insight about the world around you by focusing attention on yourself and your unique experiences. You’ll gain a new way of looking at your problems and discover solutions.

5 – “I can always talk to a friend. I don’t want to talk to a stranger.”
Friends can be a great source of support and you should talk with them. Friendship is an exchange of listening and sharing. However, a therapeutic counseling relationship is very different. In counseling the focus is solely on you and your counselor is trained to use therapeutic techniques to help you in healing, to guide you in finding answers and making changes.

Looking for help is sign of strength

I recall a time when my kids were on three different soccer teams. They all needed to be on a different field, in a different part of town at the same time! I thought, well I am a soccer mom…I can do this! I brought so much stress on myself because I was trying to do the impossible. Yes it is impossible to be in three places at once. Initially I refused to ask for help and tried to divide my time driving back and forth. It took someone else (my husband) pointing out that we needed help! He recommended we work with some of the other parents who were going through the same thing. Finally relief! Why didn’t I think to ask others to help me?

This is such a simple example of how we have become programmed to do everything ourselves and not ask for help. Is asking for help a sign of weakness? I say NO…

Where did we get the idea that we always have to always be strong, independent, and able to withstand everything life throws at us? Maybe from our families, friends or even unrealistic expectations we’ve placed on ourselves. The truth is, sometimes we need help, and the challenges we face in life can become overwhelming. For some people, when they’re going through a difficult time, it can be hard to ask for help.

Asking for help is a sign of strength! Realizing that we can’t do everything on our own and reaching out to others for help demonstrates humility, courage and strength. If you recognize you’re having a stressful or difficult time with something, don’t be afraid to reach out and find support.

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